When I think about all of the phrases, anecdotes, and sayings about the power of the spoken word I am reminded of how I changed my way of communicating with children upon learning Play Therapy principles.
I realize that using Play Therapy based language is a learned and practiced skill that requires time and effort, so I thought it would be helpful to share ten commonly used phrases parents say to their kids.
This clearly communicates the expectation and the consequence, without a threat.
Parents tend to want control all of the time, and it takes work to allow kids to have freedom to do what they choose.
“If you choose to (continue that behavior), you choose to (receive whatever consequence has already been established as a punishment)”.
A kid can sit down on a chair facing the back, and we make them turn around.Train yourself to explain the reason behind your statement.“That is not safe” or “Your skin is not for coloring on” is specific and helps them learn why things are off limits, rather than just that they are.Train yourself to acknowledge their behavior without a judgment, such as “You chose to sit the other way on the chair” or “You colored the grass purple instead”.This gives them the freedom to be creative and discover things without expectations.We often try to teach lesson to kids about life at the most inappropriate times.