You are destined to be with her, and God will guide you to her." Good luck finding this one in the Bible.There is plenty of stuff about God's will for his people, God wanting good things for you, and God's ultimate plan.God may, in fact, have a spunky brunette in mind, and he's steering you toward her as you read this.But the Bible does not promise that God will provide a loving relationship for you while you sit around and do nothing.Nowhere, however, does it say that God picked out a spunky brunette whom he's waiting to spring on you at the right moment. When it comes to God, I'm pretty careful about saying what he does or doesn't do.But I do know this—if you rely on this idea too much, your dating life will get really confusing.Some Christians take a lot of comfort in the idea that God will do the heavy lifting when it comes to dating.
We no longer have rituals of courtship and arranged marriage to guide us every step of the way. It's also spawned a whole range of opinions and advice on how to handle dating.Whom you married wasn't even up to you most of the time.Falling in love before you got married or engaged is a twentieth–century concept. In college, I had an older professor from Japan whose marriage had been arranged.There are things floating around that have little or nothing to do with the Bible.Most are well intended and contain a nugget of truth. Dating is hard enough without sifting through all this erroneous information, so let's debunk some myths.German theologian Dietrich Bonhoeffer addresses this issue in a wedding sermon he wrote for his sister from a Nazi jail cell.